This post will give you a super useful moving in together checklist! It’s packed with great tips and everything you need to know when moving in with your boyfriend (or girlfriend) for the first time.
Hi there ladies!
I’m sure a lot of you have reached that nice phase in your relationship of planning to move in together with your partner, so I thought I’d give you some of my best tips that worked AMAZINGLY GOOD for me and my boyfriend.
In all honesty, I have to credit him for half of these ideas below!
So I am assuming that you have already found your prince charming by now and are seriously thinking about moving in together.
Probably your next question is: what should I know BEFORE moving in with my boyfriend for the first time?
Things to Discuss BEFORE Moving in Together
Here are my top 3 suggestions for the most important things to discuss with your partner before moving in together. Better said, I think these are the most important things to know about each other – doesn’t have to be in the form of a very serious conversation. Up to you!
What Are Your VALUES
What matters most to you in this world? It’s super important to know this about each other as you will see this reflected in your everyday life. It can be anything like family, health, freedom, continuous development and learning, growth, financial independence. Check out if your values and their PRIORITY match your boyfriend’s.
What Are Your STANDARDS
I think especially for us, women, it’s very important to clearly communicate our standards. Meaning what is acceptable in your relationship and what is not. For example, what specific behavior absolutely drives you crazy (both of you)- this will save you lots of frustrations and arguments in the future. 😉
What Is Your FINANCIAL SITUATION
Be honest about your financial status and share it with your partner. This is a really big one! You should both know how much each of you earns, what you can afford in terms of rent, food, and other expenses, as well as any debts you might have. Knowing your finances and having a clear view of what you both can afford will make your life so much easier in the future!
So now that you know A LOT about each other, let’s see how you successfully move in together with your boyfriend. We want things to go smoothly and avoid stress and arguments.
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Moving in Together CHECKLIST – 7 Genious Tips For Living With Your Boyfriend For The First Time
Here are my best and, most importantly, PROVEN tips that will make moving in and living together with your boyfriend so much easier!
1. Make “agreements” with each other
Think of this as deals you make with each other regarding anything you want. Anything that will make your life together easier.
It was one of the first things my boyfriend and I started doing right at the beginning of our relationship and, 5 years later, still works wonders for us!
I am a strong believer in dividing household tasks fairly for example. So, who does the dishes, who takes out the trash, how does laundry or grocery shopping? They might sound like little things, but having them well mapped out will save you so many frustrations and possibly fights in the future!
Curious to see what type of deals I have with my boyfriend, have a look HERE.
2. Create a shared bank account
Remember how I was talking about finances? Creating a shared bank account should be on the moving in together checklist of every couple. At least in my opinion.
It’s super handy to transfer every month your share of the expenses (whether that’s rent/mortgage, food, utilities, and so on) and have automatic payments planned out of this account.
We also use it for our holidays, restaurants visits, cinema and so on.
3. Split everything 50-50
Again, I believe everything in a relationship is equal so splitting everything 50-50 is a big one. Or, if one partner earns significantly higher than the other, then I’d say keep things proportionally.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with spoiling your partner with a nice gift or dinner once in a while. I am talking here about the big stuff, like holiday planning, rent, and so on.
4. Know and respect each other’s taste
With this specific tip, I’m mainly referring to furniture purchases as an example. It’s important to know and respect each other’s taste – in our case, I LOVE white furniture, while my boyfriend’s previous flat was decorated mainly in dark colors. 🙂
The good news is you can always make agreements with each other on this topic too! For example- we get the white couch but the black coffee table. Find ways to mix your styles so your new home actually FEELS like home for the both of you.
5. Buy new things for your new apartment together
How nice would it be that when you’re moving in together for the first time, you decorate your new apartment with brand new things? So not only new furniture but also new cutlery, new pots, and pans, glasses, and mugs. A fresh start to your new life together!
Of course, this is different if one of the partners moves in the current flat of the other, in which case, I still think buying a few new, small items would be a fun thing to do.
6. Give each other space
I think one of the most important tips for living with your boyfriend for the first time is to give each other SPACE.
Think about it, you will be together 24-7 from now on (especially with all the lockdowns and the working from home), so it’s important to give each other some space once in a while.
This can be working in separate rooms (if you have the space), having your own activities separate from him, like meeting with your girlfriends (socially distancing of course 😉 ), having your own hobbies and so on.
7. Develop your own rituals together
As you will start living together longer and longer, you’ll start developing your own little rituals. From a first good morning kiss to movie nights, date nights, and so on.
One of our own little rituals, which we set up in the past 12 months or so is taking short walks together in the park. We do this almost every afternoon and it’s such a great way to relax and reconnect at the end of the workday.
Moving in Together – Final Thoughts
I hope you’ve enjoyed my moving in together checklist and found these tips helpful!
I do want to say as a final thought, that while moving in together for the first time is such a happy moment in every couple’s life, it can also be a big change for both of you.
Expect an adjustment period after moving in. It’s perfectly normal for things to not be all rainbows and unicorns from the beginning, to not like everything about your partner, but the most important part is to talk about them and find ways to make things work. Remeber, you are a team now!